Parenting can be easier.
Even though we’ve been doing it for millennia, it’s still a work in progress. Despite generations of passed-down knowledge and experience, it seems like it always comes down to a situation where it’s after bedtime, you’re sleep-deprived and running on leftover mac and cheese, and you will do just about anything to get your kid into the bath.
Without some kind of course correction, these can become patterns that are harder and harder to break. Think of it like a quicksand—you get sucked in bit by bit until you’re stuck.
At Fairmount Mental Wellness I treat individual children and their families together. Research shows us children struggling with mental health problems get better faster when the family is actively participating in treatment interventions.
Family involvement creates a greater likelihood that both your child and your family heal and develop the resiliency needed to face your present challenges.
9 Unique Challenges Children Are Facing
SOCIAL & COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS: Social anxiety; difficulty making or keeping friends; inability to express emotions, thoughts, or beliefs.
PROBLEMS WITH SCHOOL: Truancy or skipping class; struggling to participate and be engaged;.
DEFIANCE: Arguments feel like battles; rarely gaining compliance in simple matters; seemingly purposeful unwillingness to cooperate.
LOW SELF CONFIDENCE: Giving up before ever really trying; low self esteem and self worth; not standing up for one's self (e.g. having a 'voice').
VIDEO GAME AND INTERNET ADDICTION: Compulsively spending hours glued to screens; difficulty transitioning back to reality (e.g. making friends in real life (IRL)); ignoring responsibilities and school work due to digital use.
PROBLEMS WITH MOTIVATION, FOCUS, AND RESILIENCY: Challenges getting started; disorganized and inattention; lack of follow through, giving up too easy, and avoiding hard work.
EMOTIONAL DIFFICULTIES: Mental health including anxiety, anger or depression; effects of ADHD; loneliness, bullying, and inability to express/process emotions.
Benefits of Counseling for Children
PROCESS EMOTIONS: Process emotions that they may not be able to express in other ways
DECREASE UNDESIRABLE BEHAVIORS: children learn to regulate their feelings and behavior
INDEPENDENCE AND CREATIVE THINKING: emotionally healthy children are able to independently access and use their creativity.
IMPROVE SOCIAL SKILLS: Making and keeping friends, playing cooperatively with peers, communicate effectively.
STRENGTHEN FAMILY BONDS: Stronger relationships with family members, decrease sibling rivalry.
PEACE: Imagine a calm home filled with communication and connection instead of calamity and conflict; rest assured that you are holistically helping your child (mind, body and spirit).
COPING SKILLS: increased ability to handle and express difficult emotions; feel better - happier, healthier, and more grounded.
SATISFYING RELATIONSHIPS: Feeling understood; practice connecting with others; willingness to open up and be vulnerable.
CONFIDENCE: Achieve more success with a deeper belief in yourself; willing to be your own true, real, authentic self; have a voice, take a stand and be OK.
STRESS AND ANGER REDUCTION: develop executive functioning skills and decrease desire for instant gratification; self-regulation strategies for managing distractions; fortify against compulsive, unhealthy behaviors such as phone addiction, poor nutrition, or fighting with siblings.
MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL WELLNESS: expand the ability to express and process emotions and feelings; adjust a pessimistic, negative, stressful worldview (e.g. develop a more healthy, positive way of thinking).
IMPULSE CONTROL: Develop ways to help your child slow down and think before they speak or act; increase executive functioning skills and decrease instant gratification; self-regulation strategies for managing distractions; fortify against compulsive, unhealthy behaviors such as phone addiction, poor nutrition, or fighting with siblings.